Where o Death is Your Sting?

It’s often when I feel sorrow or pain that I turn to writing. And as I just received some unwelcome, yet not surprising news, I feel the the need to put my feelings into writing.

2010 was a tough year emotionally.  The Farmer and I lost people very close to us. It started with the loss of a great-uncle. Someone who hadn’t really been sick and so his death was surprising.

And then the man who was like my second dad during my childhood passed away very unexpectedly. This guy was my Dad’s best friend, worked on the farm for us, and treated my children like his own grandchildren. I shed so many tears on his passing, but he was a man of great faith. So I know he now rests in a much better place.

Shortly after, The Farmer and I lost a friend to brain cancer. Just a year earlier, she had been diagnosed with the rapid spreading cancer. We watched her fight to stay around for her three young kids. Her husband also works for us and is someone I’ve known since I was a baby. And yet this past fall her battle her on earth finished. Also a woman of great faith, I have no doubt she’s sitting in Heaven now. But her loss is still one that hurts.

And the wounds opened again today as we lost another friend to cancer.  A dad to two very small children, the husband to a lovely, devoted wife, and a guy people just loved to be around.  He and his wife just had a baby a few months ago. Shortly after, he asked me to tell him that my Lion Cub and his son would be friends when they got older. It’s a promise I intend to keep.

I Corinthians 15:55 says “Where, O death, is your victory? Where, O death, is your sting?”  I know that the sting is only for those of us who remain to mourn the loss.  But the victory is won for my friends who have moved on to take their place with Jesus. And as we get ready to go through another visitation and pay our respects for a life taken much to soon, we go knowing the promise laid out for all believers.  Knowing they are all in Heaven is the only way I can make any sense of the loss, as the loss stings for so many.


  1. Prayers.

  2. Thinking of you and yours.

  3. my prayers are with you and yours

  4. I found your blog through the Real Farmwives of America page on FB. This post really hit home as The Husband and I too have lost many close people this year. What made it especially hard was that The Husband was deployed for all of it so we had to be even stronger for each other. My prayers go with you and your family as I know that kind of pain.

  5. So sorry for all this loss. Hugs and prayers to you and these families.

  6. Praying for you still. Hang in there momma!

  7. Wow, I hope that there is a turning point. I just stumbled onto your blog. I love your header photo.


  8. Last year was a tough one in our house, too. The sting is definitely for those left behind, not those who have gone ahead.

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